My O

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I've had grandparents, only three of the genetic 4 but my 3 were exceptional.  I recall a great grandmother as well.  Not many memories but a do recall sitting in an overstuffed chair out the mountain with her.  They were safe, cozy, chill places with them.
I never imagined them as "people" really as a child, they were just my NANA and POP and GRAM.
I never worried about anything around them, they were a safe haven.
Now I am a NANA.
Am I possibly a safe haven for My Owen?  I want to be his cozy place, his safe place, the place he goes to just be away from whatever everyday thing could be creeping around.
Am I able to be that person?
I feel too selfish to be anyone elses safe haven, yet when he is near I only want to hold and love him.  Kiss his sweet face and smell his baby boy smells.
I dont feel like the Nana.  I feel like the Mom that happens to have more baby.... from her baby.

I see Owen almost every weekday for about 2 hours.  He is usually sweet and smiling and easily entertained. 

I guess a part of me is still so busy "momming" that "NANAING" feels the same?

So I guess I'll be as good of a Nanan as I am a Mom at this point.

If loving someone with every scratch and ding of a heart then I am all that.  And a bag of chips.


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