The world is opening up.

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My beautiful, smart, funny, independnt, loving daughters.

Big things are happening in their lives.  They have both found good men to spend the rest of their lives with.
For this, I am grateful.
Honestly, I could not have found two more well suited guys for them.

Ryan makes Allie laugh.  Out loud, tears in her eyes, laugh.
When I think of the times I love most with my Andy it is the times when he makes me laugh.
There are aspects of their relationship that remind me alot of Tim and I.
An understated familiarity.  A comfortable place they find in one another.
They have similar goals.  To be happy, simple, honest people.  Together.
That I like for her.

Brandon is sweet and tender.  He loves Melissa with is whole heart.  It is obvious when you see them together, he admires her when she is next to him, across form him, or across the room.  He anticipates her needs and tends to them even without her asking.
They both have such innocence about them.  An unusual trait in kids these days, or should I say young people.
They hug, all the time.  A lost art really.  sharing a hug.  That is a good thing.  They talk alot.  I cant hear their words but the sound of constant chat and laughter comes from her room.
A partner you can talk to is irreplaceable.

Again, my Andy. 
We talk, and talk, and talk.
silly stuff, what I am doing, he is doing, reading, thinking about.
David asked at Easter if we talk all the time like this?
Well, yes we do.

What can I say to them to help them now.?
I have been an attentive Mom up until now, how do I guide them without being...
overbearing>?
Enjoy the everyday things.
When you are both home on the couch, realize "This is my time to love him, and us, just as we are."
Hug eachother, Missi and Brandpon have it down, but they all need to hold echother for a minute and remind eachother, Im here, I love you, and I will be here when the day is done.
Dream of what you want your lives to be together, and DO IT!!
Be romantic, be senstive, be quiet.
Characteristics in other relationships that you like, do that!!!
You are in control of what you two can and will be.
Words cannot be taken back, be caeful what yousay to eachother.  You are the most important person in the other persons life, You can hurt them like no one else can.  Be careful/
Dont say anything negative about your partner to other people, your mate may not find out, but other people never forget.  Everything good afterwards they won't believe.

Your Mother can be your best firend now.
Its ok, now that you are grown, especially THIS MOM!!!


I have moments thinking, Im losing my girls.
Sure, I can go down that road.
But I changing my view, I am working hard on realizing that...
I am gaining so much more.
These two young men truly love my girls.
They are going to share with them things and events that I couldn't and shouldn't.
Marriage, new homes, children.
Yes, someday I think I will be a Nana too.
How wonderful to watch them open the world with a partner by their side.
I get a front row seat.

Or maybe a second row seat, so I don't come across as the bitchy mother in law.

ahhh, front row it will be.
Im still their Mamabear.

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