Solemn vow.
Andy and I went to a wedding yesterday. It was very lovely. The bride and groom, young and in love. I was excited to go because I got a new dress that just felt really nice on. I felt pretty and was excited.
I love weddings because I love the music, everyone usually in great moods, free flowing drinks. Just a good time.
I like church weddings. There is something to be said about "I solemnly swear in front of God and family.."
This young couple exchanged their vows in front of family, though were married by a judge. All the same. Their vows were from the heart and truly very sweet.
The promises made to one another are very touching and I for one Hear them, yet don't actually listen to them.
When you marry you promise to
Love, honor and cherish
sickness and health
good times and bad.
richer and poorer
ALL the days of my life.
Promise to be true to them
keep only unto them.
How sweet...
How monumentally huge.
A promise in front of everyone that I will do right by this person everyday for the rest of my life?
I don't remember REALLY TRULY PONDERING THIS COMMITMENT.
Now before everyone thinks me an evildoer.
I don't see myself a quitter or taking my promises lightly.
But I must say that these words "solemn vow" mean alot more now than they ever did.
After this very young beautiful couple made their solemn vows to one another and everyone cheered, I headed to the bar.
Everyone headed to the bar.
Its a wedding.
We sat at our table and chatted, snacked on the cocktail hour goodies and laughed.
Then the EVENT happened.
My sister in laws brother and sister in law came in.
Butch and Cathy have been married for 30 years. She has long red wavy hair, very petite and quiet with a sweet smile. Butch has a warm smile and sparkling eyes. I remember a few Christmas's ago they came Susans house and sat together and chatted. She talked about her grandchildren and children. I did the same. We had a lovely time together. A normal couple.
Two years ago she went in for a small surgery, Gallbadder removal I believe. She had severe complications and got a terrible infection and is now full care. She doesn't speak, feed herself, walk, or use any part of her body with of her own free will.
Her HUSBAND does that for her.
He fed her, gave her water and pushed her wheelchair around the reception. She was covered in a blanket and her red hair was pulled down straight with the curls gone. Her smile replaced by the stare of paralysis.
But...
Her eyes...
They told a story of LOVE.
His eyes...
They told a story of LOVE.
They sat together and watched their beloved niece make the commitment of a lifetime.
And showed living breathing "solemn vows"
He promised to love honor and cherish her all the days of his life.
He does, by the smile on his face when he fed her and talked to her, to the wink in her eyes as she was apparently so grateful for his care.
I was humbled beyond words. I felt some shame in my anticipation of a wedding and the "drinks".
My husband and I sat there and he kissed my hand.
We don't have a clue what it is like for Butch and Cathy everyday and night.
All I know is that I hope I would have half as much courage as they show together if I were in the same position.
Andy and I celebrated 7 years of marriage on the 22nd of May.
Do I have what it takes to care for someone without hesitation.? Someone I love? I do.
I do.
I would.
I will.
Do you Suzanne, take (insert name here) to be your lawfully wedded husband?
I did, and I do.
I can be married to Andy and still believe in my commitment to Tim, right? Is that wrong?
Why can't I believe in never abandoning Tim? While still loving my current husband?
Is this really that unusual?
I have a lot of friends that I love, he is just one of them.
OK, so I won't think on this one too hard or long.
All is well, I am lucky to have this much love in my heart at this point in my life I guess.
I should be bitter and really pent up, I might be tomorrow, but for tonight I just LOVE everyone.
(add somewhat sarcastic chuckle HEERE>)
Would they do the same for me.
Yes- they would... both of them and I know that. I am one lucky bigamist.
I love weddings because I love the music, everyone usually in great moods, free flowing drinks. Just a good time.
I like church weddings. There is something to be said about "I solemnly swear in front of God and family.."
This young couple exchanged their vows in front of family, though were married by a judge. All the same. Their vows were from the heart and truly very sweet.
The promises made to one another are very touching and I for one Hear them, yet don't actually listen to them.
When you marry you promise to
Love, honor and cherish
sickness and health
good times and bad.
richer and poorer
ALL the days of my life.
Promise to be true to them
keep only unto them.
How sweet...
How monumentally huge.
A promise in front of everyone that I will do right by this person everyday for the rest of my life?
I don't remember REALLY TRULY PONDERING THIS COMMITMENT.
Now before everyone thinks me an evildoer.
I don't see myself a quitter or taking my promises lightly.
But I must say that these words "solemn vow" mean alot more now than they ever did.
After this very young beautiful couple made their solemn vows to one another and everyone cheered, I headed to the bar.
Everyone headed to the bar.
Its a wedding.
We sat at our table and chatted, snacked on the cocktail hour goodies and laughed.
Then the EVENT happened.
My sister in laws brother and sister in law came in.
Butch and Cathy have been married for 30 years. She has long red wavy hair, very petite and quiet with a sweet smile. Butch has a warm smile and sparkling eyes. I remember a few Christmas's ago they came Susans house and sat together and chatted. She talked about her grandchildren and children. I did the same. We had a lovely time together. A normal couple.
Two years ago she went in for a small surgery, Gallbadder removal I believe. She had severe complications and got a terrible infection and is now full care. She doesn't speak, feed herself, walk, or use any part of her body with of her own free will.
Her HUSBAND does that for her.
He fed her, gave her water and pushed her wheelchair around the reception. She was covered in a blanket and her red hair was pulled down straight with the curls gone. Her smile replaced by the stare of paralysis.
But...
Her eyes...
They told a story of LOVE.
His eyes...
They told a story of LOVE.
They sat together and watched their beloved niece make the commitment of a lifetime.
And showed living breathing "solemn vows"
He promised to love honor and cherish her all the days of his life.
He does, by the smile on his face when he fed her and talked to her, to the wink in her eyes as she was apparently so grateful for his care.
I was humbled beyond words. I felt some shame in my anticipation of a wedding and the "drinks".
My husband and I sat there and he kissed my hand.
We don't have a clue what it is like for Butch and Cathy everyday and night.
All I know is that I hope I would have half as much courage as they show together if I were in the same position.
Andy and I celebrated 7 years of marriage on the 22nd of May.
Do I have what it takes to care for someone without hesitation.? Someone I love? I do.
I do.
I would.
I will.
Do you Suzanne, take (insert name here) to be your lawfully wedded husband?
I did, and I do.
I can be married to Andy and still believe in my commitment to Tim, right? Is that wrong?
Why can't I believe in never abandoning Tim? While still loving my current husband?
Is this really that unusual?
I have a lot of friends that I love, he is just one of them.
OK, so I won't think on this one too hard or long.
All is well, I am lucky to have this much love in my heart at this point in my life I guess.
I should be bitter and really pent up, I might be tomorrow, but for tonight I just LOVE everyone.
(add somewhat sarcastic chuckle HEERE>)
Would they do the same for me.
Yes- they would... both of them and I know that. I am one lucky bigamist.
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