Landslide....

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I have found that songs and lyrics are in direct relationship with time and place for me. This song was popular at a time when Tim and I were in the last breathes of our marriage. I knew it was over yet had no idea that I could be partly responsible for the END.
I can now look back and recognize my huge errors.
That said, I wouldnt change a thing.
The song talks about how you build your life around someone else and how whent he person changes or leaves you are changed.
Who and what you are is defined by that other person. Not wholly, but they are part of your label.
Now I listen to that song and I realize that I am no longer defined by my husband. My Andy adds to who and what I am.
I moreso enjoy the reference to how my girls are changing and adding more to my life on a daily basis.
Missi got her acceptance letter to the college of art of her choice. Her first choice school critiqued her portfolio and have her three assignments to do and they chose her for the class begining Fall of 2010.
Now I will begin the letting go of my second daughter to a life I prayed for her to have.
I have to give MY PIECES AWAY in order to GET THEIRS!!
My tears and selfishness has to morph into encouragement and excitement.
I am all those things but shit this is my baby.
I will let her go and pack the car and get her stuf together and AGAIN DRIVE AWAY from where SHE is.
It is not natural to leave a child somewhere else.
I guess that is my problem, these girls are not my babies anymore-They are women.
Love you Missi-My beautiful, sensitive, artist..

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